Teaching etiquette from the start is just as important as teaching strokes and footwork. Tennis is unique because it expects players to be self-officiating, respectful, and composed — even when emotions run high.

Respect for Opponents

Respect for the person across the net is the heart of tennis etiquette. Players should be taught early that opponents are not enemies—they are partners in competition.

Handshake or Racket Tap: At the end of every match, win or lose, young players should walk to the net, make eye contact, and offer a handshake or, today, often a racket tap. This small gesture means a lot—it shows maturity and gratitude for the match.

Positive Attitude: Players should avoid negative body language like eye-rolling, slumping shoulders, or muttering after losing a point. Instead, they should show appreciation for good shots made by opponents.

Graceful Winning and Losing: Winning should be celebrated modestly. There should be no over-the-top celebrations or cheering mistakes made by the opponent. Losing should be accepted with grace, used as a chance to learn and grow.

Tip for Parents: Your reactions matter too! Smile, clap politely, and show respect to both players. Avoid excessive cheering for only your child’s points or displaying disappointment with missed shots.

Respect for the Game

Respecting the traditions and spirit of tennis makes the game enjoyable for everyone.

Making Honest Calls: In junior tennis, players are often their referees. Teaching your child to call the ball fairly, even if it means losing a point, builds integrity that lasts far beyond sports.

Giving the Benefit of the Doubt: Players are encouraged to give the point to the opponent if a call is uncertain. This might seem tough, but it’s a core part of tennis culture and teaches honor above all.

Taking Responsibility: If a mistake is made, players should admit it quickly without a coach or parent prompting. Honesty over hiding errors fosters real self-respect.

Tip for Parents: Model sportsmanship from the stands by staying calm during close calls and trusting your child to handle disputes on their own. Avoid signaling or reacting to calls—leave it to the kids.

Respect for Officials and Coaches

Respect extends beyond players and into how young athletes interact with adults who help run and teach the sport.

Accepting Calls Without Argument: Players should learn to respectfully accept referees’ or umpires’ decisions, even if they disagree. No arguing, eye-rolling, or stomping is appropriate.

Listening Attentively: Whether a coach is giving advice or an official is explaining a rule, players should stop, listen, and respond politely.

Showing Gratitude: Teaching children to thank coaches, officials, and volunteers after matches or lessons reinforces the value of appreciating those who support their journey.

Tip for Parents: Be a role model by thanking coaches and officials yourself. Also, avoid coaching from the sidelines—trust your child to learn independently during matches.

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